tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584440096897748703.post1496791268230405516..comments2023-11-06T08:44:01.037-05:00Comments on Why rinse chicken? Reflections as my life unfolds: The infamous "kids" questionSarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10968176559611229059noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584440096897748703.post-28468868286193378722009-05-25T18:17:40.445-04:002009-05-25T18:17:40.445-04:00Wow!! See what I get for going on a mini vacation...Wow!! See what I get for going on a mini vacation. I missed this post. I am just now getting caught up. I am so sorry that you got this question a few times but you are so right people pretty much start asking you the minute that engagement ring gets slipped onto your finger. :)<br /><br />You have every right to answer this question however you see fit. It really is no one's business what you plan to do or not do with your body!!Sonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612376271533554603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584440096897748703.post-10825021367728885962009-05-22T23:22:13.599-04:002009-05-22T23:22:13.599-04:00It is a rude question when people ask without invi...It is a rude question when people ask without invitation. If a couple isn't having kids, it's either because they can't or they aren't planning on it at the moment.Ryan Ashley Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13515371602427605756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584440096897748703.post-59265951489137223772009-05-22T11:32:38.437-04:002009-05-22T11:32:38.437-04:00Oh my, you are so right! My best friend has had f...Oh my, you are so right! My best friend has had four miscarriages, all of which she kept very private because of the pain. People were os rude and would ask questions like, "Why don't you have children yet? Don't you like children?" Finally she got so fed up with it that she answered, I love all four of my children that are already in heaven!<br />That shut them up! But it still hurts - very time someone unthinkingly says something. Thanks for your post - People need to be reminded that having children is not as simple as just deciding that you are going to have them. :)Mrs. Frogsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06067224159061270063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584440096897748703.post-21529581047605544442009-05-22T10:08:11.687-04:002009-05-22T10:08:11.687-04:00I agree, Sara. I think it is a very personal ques...I agree, Sara. I think it is a very personal question but I also believe that good-intentioned people sometimes ask questions like that without thinking that there might be an issue of infertility or of recurring miscarriage. (And I smile as I write this because I'm sure I have asked this question to some before. Although my question is usually more along the lines of "when are ya'll going to have ANOTHER one" hehehe)<br /><br />But you know what I think: I think that societal expectations have morphed so much that it is expected for a couple to start trying to conceive almost immediately after the wedding. It isn't common (or as common as I would like to see) for people to wait and enjoy a few years as the "newlyweds" before they become the "young parents".<br /><br />My hubby and I have 4 kids and after my 4th, I had my tubes tied-a decision I, at times, regret. I mainly had them tied because when I was pregnant with my 4th I felt like I always owed people an explanation as to why we kept having kids. Why were we not just happy with the standard 2.3 kids? The question we always heard was "You know what causes that don't you?" :Rollseyes:<br /><br />Anyhow, I'm happy you posted and I hope I haven't rambled on and on...and on. :)GodseySixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11144374096523261803noreply@blogger.com