We don't know if we're having a boy or a girl yet, but my hubby and I have already started a list of baby names. Unfortunately, we don't agree on very many names. Names I love, he hates. The few names he has suggested just aren't my style. The only thing we agree on are middle names.
If we have a little girl, the middle name will be Ann-Marie, after the two most important women in my life, my mom and sister. Ann is my mom's middle name and Marie is my sister's middle name. My sister will also be the baby's Godmother. They are both strong, independent, caring women, and what better legacy to pass on to our daughter than the legacies of these amazing women.
If we have a little boy, the middle name will be David, which was the first name of my paternal grandfather who passed away in 2003. Growing up, we only got to see our paternal grandparents once a year because they lived so far away. Despite that, I always had a very special relationship with my grandpa and I loved being his little "princess." So I feel very strongly about honoring him in this way, if we are blessed with a little boy.
There are first names that my hubby and I agree on, but nothing that we are dead set on or are absolutely in love with yet. Sonya asked if we will be sharing the name once we decide and my answer is a definite NO. We will share after the baby is born, but no one will know before, not even (or especially not even) our family. (That, of course, is assuming that we agree on a name before the baby is born!)
We both have family members that do not hesitate to share their opinions, whether they are asked for or not. Let me state this clearly: I do not care what anyone other than my husband thinks of our child's name. However, I feel that if I hear people expressing negative opinions about a name that I love, that I will start to question the name myself, and I don't want that. So we will not share the name. It's as simple as that. Once the baby is born and named, hopefully they will fall in love with the new little soul, now a physical part of our family, and the name will be less of a focus. At that point, the baby will be named, and there will be no changing it anyway.
So what about you? Did you and your significant other have trouble naming your child/children? Did you share the name ahead of time?